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Sometimes, you just want to know what something is, in the Adult Novelties & Sex Toy World. What is a Silicone lubricant? What is a Rabbit Vibrator? etc etc.

What is a Wand? | the adult sex toy massager

What is this magical Sex Toy that everyone seems to ask for? want? or are curious about?  Massager Wands have various names but many know these Adult sex toys just as a Hitachi, which is an older brand, but that’s not the actual toy type.  With all the various toys in the world, it took me a while to muster up the nerve to give the wand a chance.  When in reality, it should have been one of the first toys out there, I should’ve bought.

But, I always felt like Wands were dinosaurs!  They are like the OG gangstas of vibrator world, with the Hitachi Magic Wand as their spokesperson!   Wands started it’s legacy awhile ago and it’s been around for quite some time.  Every time, I saw a wand I’d think of a “soccer mom” and feel like I need to use it Old_Hitachi_Magic_Wand_boxwhile wearing legwarmers, a leotard and a headband *think FLASHDANCE* after seeing their old box haha.  With all the new and improved toys out there, I never thought I should get something that plugged into a wall, let alone had its classic looks of the basic handle and large vibrating tip.

BUT! “there is a reason people are still fascinated with dinosaurs” aaaaand, when your bestie tells you that Wands are the best thing since sliced bread AND she happens to work at an adult shop… you can’t really ignore her opinion. lol

Body massage!Wand massagers are a great necessity.

Wands are great for a regular ol’ body massage and to relax one’s muscles.  This type of vibrator is a great “bedroom tool” to relax a person and a perfect pre-game build-up to explore a person’s erogenous zones. Whether it’s your back, limbs and leading to more traditional sexy-time areas. A Wand body massager’s perfect purpose is to literally vibrate a clit off! They are like the terminator of sex toys.  Wands have one mission and that is to vibrate and hit the spot for a strategic forced orgasm…almost within minutes. When you find the perfect wand, you will use it and “You’ll be back” for more.

I am the most Wand-erful Massager of the Adult Sex Toy World!Wands come in all shapes and sizes, with a basic look to it all.

  • The head that is the primary vibration source.
  • A neck that sometimes in some styles of wands are adjustable and bend to be able to give more pressure.
  • Then, there is the base which is the shaft to be able to hold and is the handle to direct where you would like to point that vibration in the right direction.

They can be small in size to fit in the palm of your hand and then some as large as your forearm.  They all deliver various types of vibrations but it’s always good to have at least one in your arsenal of sex toys.  Just remember that they have one big mission and that means high-intensity vibrations.  There are some wands that won’t completely vibe you into numbness if it’s too intense and some that buzz just right.  It’s not for the “beginner” per se, but it might be too strong for a newbie.

Also, Wands aren’t just a one trick pony that is focused for external clitoral stimulation. Many wands have attachments to be able to do so much more, they have attachments where you can stimulate internally and give g-spot stimulation or anal stimulation, etc etc.

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What is a Clitoral Arousal Gel or Enhancement Cream!?!?

Sometimes, a gal needs a little spring in her step.  Whether it’s once in a blue moon for fun or possibly when her libido needs to be a bit of a boost.

What is a Clitoral Arousal gel, Foreplay gels, Female Stimulating Gels,  Arousal Balms and Oils, Sex Arousal Creams, Clitoral Stimulants, Orgasm Creams or Clit creams…

Whatever you want to call them.

… are a great way to bring that boost to the table.  Often mistaken as a lubricant (which is for decreasing friction), an arousal gel has one sole purpose and that is to put the pedal to the metal with your orgasm.  They are a topical gel or cream that you apply a dime size amount onto your clitoral hood under, on and around it.  Rub around and it brings blood flow down to your clit, so you become more aroused and sensitive.  Which leads to you having a more heighten and faster orgasm. or well.., that’s the end goal.

Ingredients

Each arousal or enhancement gel is different but they tend to stick to the same type of ingredients. It’ll either have vasodilator or ingredients that act like a magnet for your blood to get redirected to your clit, such as:

  • L-Arginine
  • Niacin
  • Yohimbe Root
  • Ginseng

Other ingredients give a warm, pulsing and almost buzz- like effect.

  • Cinnamo-mum Zeylanicum aka Cinnamon

and some ingredients have a cooling, tingling effect to add stimulation.

  • Methyl salicylate aka wintergreen oil 🙂
  • Menthol

Either way, those ingredient’s job is to get the blood flowing where you applied it topically.   Paired with a great partner or a lovely sex toy, it can be able to heighten a sensation that you may only be getting the tip of the iceberg.

I admit, it isn’t for everyone and sometimes if you are more sensitive the ingredients might cause irritation and sometimes you might not even have any type of reaction at all.  But, for the other gals who want to try it out.  It can be pretty rocking!  A lot of adult shops carry trial sizes for a couple bucks which is the route I recommend.  You can check a couple out and see which one works well with your body and then invest in a larger quantity.  Always remember adult products don’t always have to be a crutch if there is “something wrong”, you may just want to try something to spice things up.  Why not try an arousal gel and see what your body is capable of! 🙂

What are Kegel Balls?

Balls in your …VAjayjay!!!

Ben Wa Balls, Orgasm Balls, Venus Balls, Kegel Balls, Geisha Balls

Whatever you want to call them… let’s talk about putting Balls in your cooch!  They are many names for these balls and there are many variations to them. But, the original Ben wa balls were just a single weighted ball that helped stimulate you internally while having or not even having intercourse.  Traditionally, two balls are inserted vaginally and they are sorta playing tag with each other inside that creates a stimulating feel. Now, it’s not like a normal “sex toy” out there, where it’s sole purpose is to build you up buttercup to make you have an orgasm. But rather, it’s sexual purpose is to tease a partner, almost to get the feeling of orgasm but not getting there quite yet. Another purpose is the most beneficial factor to all women, they can be used to exercise the PC muscles!

Why should I put balls in my vag?

Think of it as Lifting weights for your vagina! beyonce-do-you-even-lift-bro

These balls have evolved and have different appearances now with different exterior coatings ranging from stainless steel to plastic shiny fun coating to silicone. They have chains attached, or strings to make it easier to take out so you won’t have to “push it out” or “fish it out”.

They come in all shapes and sizes but their goal is to create a sensation and strengthen the muscles down there.

How and why do I use kegel balls?
  • Just insert them before you want to start your Kegel exercises and it helps increase your progress.
  • Many also have found the fullness feeling to be liberating while having anal sex. 🙂
  • After a few weeks of using kegel balls and doing exercises, you will feel the difference.
  • You can wear them any time of the day, whenever you choose or however long you choose.
  • Dabble a little bit of lube on your balls to make insertion easier.
  • Start slowly with one ball and then increase to two later. It’s just like lifting weights, you don’t start off lifting 1000 lbs, you work your way up.
  • Many have found that by controlling their PC muscles they can control their orgasms.
  • Try doing the “Kegel Song Challenge” to make exercises more fun and challenging.

 

I had a customer come in recently, who told me that her Yoga Instructor told her to get kegel balls which to help her train her core muscles.  I feel like that would make sense and kind of makes me want to try it. haha

What are KEGEL EXERCISES? !?!?!

Many women brush Kegel exercises off as if it’s nothing.  I hear the usual, “ohh I don’t have a problem down there!” blah blah blah. But honestly, I think it’s more preventative for later and well who doesn’t want to be able to control your muscles down there and have better orgasms! 

Kegel exercises were exercises that Dr. Arnold H. Kegel made popular by stating that it will strengthen the PC muscles. Your PC muscles are also known as the Pubococcygeus muscle.  It’s a hammock-like muscle that stretches backward from the pubes toward the coccyx and forms part of the pelvic floor. This muscle is found in both men and women.

Why should you do Kegel Exercises?

If you train yourself properly, you can control your orgasms, squeeze your partner to increase sensation while having intercourse, and help your own personal health to prevent weak pelvic muscles later in life.

Have you heard the term “If you don’t use it, you lose it?”… well, I feel bad for telling you, but it’s true. Since it’s a muscle, we need to keep up with our health and “work it out” so later on in life we won’t have any negative repercussions. What are these negative repercussions? Well, one would involve “Depends”. The Adult diapers. haha Both Women and Men suffer from weak pelvic muscles and this leads to lack of bladder control, incontinence, and just plain piddling your pants when you sneeze. Also, for girls… two words… Uterine prolapse. Remember that analogy describing the pc muscle as a hammock? well, let’s just say if you don’t exercise that hammock it’ll give way and it holds up your uterus.

Now that I scared you to the point of piddling your pants, let’s just talk about kegel exercises and ways to decrease your chances of those bad repercussions and get those awesome orgasms flying at you! so keep reading…

How do you do Kegel Exercises?
  • Find the right muscles you are supposed to be working out. To identify your pelvic floor muscles, try to stop urination in midstream. If you succeed, you’ve got the right muscles.
  • Empty your bladder. If you do decide to use kegel balls, the pressure will push down and make you feel like you have to run to the urination station. So, it’s just best to empty it to start off.
  • Start off slow. Lay down and squeeze PC muscles for 5 seconds and release for 5 seconds. Do 5 rounds of this.
  • Once that becomes too easy, work up to squeezing the PC muscles for 10 seconds and release for 10. Do 5 rounds of this.
  • Now, place your hand on your abdomen and try and focus on only flexing your PC muscles avoiding your abdomen, thighs or buttocks.
  • Maintain a nice breathing pattern and avoid holding your breath.
  • Practice doing your exercises 3 times a day.
  • Once laying down becomes too easy, try doing the exercises while standing.
  • Once doing the repetitious 10-second rounds, Try listening to music and only squeezing and releasing to the bass line.
  • You can always use Kegel balls to help your progress. Think of them as weights like most people use while working out.

 

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What are Silicone lubricants!?

Silicone lubricants are favorite to many.  Either you love it or hate it. But it’s the kind where you get the most “bang” for your buck since it lubricates for days. haha

Silicone is made from synthetic materials and the content of the lubricants is only a few items such as Dimethicone, Dimethiconal and cyclomethicone. There are different “grades” of silicone so not all are made the same.  Depending, on their “recipe” it can range from thick to baby oil thin.  Just like water-based lubricants they are sometimes additives that make it softer and a moisturizer like vitamin E.  But there isn’t too much of a variety for silicone other than quality.

Pros

  • Great for girls who are sensitive down there. Since silicone’s main components are Dimethicone, Dimethiconol, and Cyclomethicone which means bacteria will not stick around  since it doesn’t have a living things or plant polymers to cling to.
  • The consistency and viscosity of silicone is similar to oil and petroleum-based lubricants but is more body friendly internally.
  • It’s like a slip and slide! Water just glides over it! So, if you would like to have some fun in water (shower/baths… pools/hot tubs) it will work extremely well.
  • It stays on twice as long in comparison to a water-based lubricant.
  • Silicone doesn’t need to be applied as much or the same quantity used as a water lubricant.
  • Condom friendly.

Cons

  • Stains the sheets and fabrics, so bring out the Oxy-clean to get those stains out, or else it’ll look like you ate fried chicken in bed.
  • You will need soap and water to remove it completely off your skin since it will leave a film and slick coating.
  • You are limited to using silicone with certain sex toys since it will break down the materials of your toy, making it melt and have a gummy-like texture.  Silicone lubricant on a silicone toy almost bonds together which makes it porous and susceptible for infections.  Even though many people don’t notice it visibly as much, once the materials have degraded, it becomes a hazard to use the toy since it becomes a bacteria party waiting to join in on the vagina fun.
  • The cost of silicone lubricants are more expensive than water or oil-based lubes.  BUT since you use less, the price is pretty comparable at the end of the day.
Slip and slide it on it... silicone lube.
Slip and slide it on it… silicone lube.

H2Ohhhhh, Water Based Lubricants! | What are water based lubricants?

Water based lubricants are the most friendliest to use out there! It has all the right qualities that are needed and wanted in a lubrication. What I mean by water based lubricant it is water soluble.  It is made with  various plant based polymers, preservatives and sometimes glycerin.  The newer lubricants that are being introduced have been adding moisturizers to decrease the stickiness and ability to stay moist longer.  So as far as water-based lubricants, there are a lot of options out there for you. Continue reading H2Ohhhhh, Water Based Lubricants! | What are water based lubricants?

Lovely Lube-y Luberly Lubed Lubricants | What are Lubricants?

Lubricant also known as Lube, is just another tool to help you sexually whether it is to decrease friction when masturbating, having intercourse, or with age just to keep hydrated to decrease that icky dry feeling.

SO! I’m GONNA SAY IT! Lubrication is not a crutch, which is what majority of the world tends to think.

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