What’s up BUTTercup?
“So, my boyfriend guy and I are adventuring with my butt. But neither of us have ever actually done it so where should we start?”
Butt stuff is such a fun adventure! I will and always tell people that doing butt stuff is the most intimate thing you can do with your partner. Soooooo much trust and prep go into butt stuff to make it enjoyable for both partners.
I’m pretty sure that your adventure’s end goal is having his penis inside your bum BUT!!… that’s down the road. Remember, that you need to go slow. *womp womp* Slow and steady wins the race. (That’s even hard for me to say since I have no patience and like to sprint and get ‘errr done.) Just remember that if you put in the prep and work beforehand it’ll be a hell of a lot easier. When a few factors align like both partners realize that the bottom is the one in charge, you know how your bodies react, and you have everything set up like a map your bodies will tell you what to do. 😛
When a person says they’d like to get into butt stuff, there is usually the assumption that something is inevitably going to be stuck in their “no-no” hole. Which causes them to push the panic button. But, DUDE!!! There are sooooo many ways to stimulate the butt without ever actually sticking anything in. I love to recommend people to just play with the exterior before the interior. The part that you see actually is the most sensitive since all the nerve endings are right there at the opening. A fun thing to start with is just putting pressure on the anus while having sex or just plain masturbating. A niiice… butthole massage you can say. Or, You can always start with eating the booty like groceries, so you can get familiar with the different sensations down there.
I love being a female since we have so many holes haha and you could always wear a small butt plug to get used to the feeling and just bone regular all vag-penner stylez. But, your best sex toy is you or your partner’s hands, because not only are they significantly smaller than other things you want to stick in. Your hands can feel everything, from friction and if you need to add more lube or if the butt is ready to take more in. Use my butt-volution guideline: finger… then when your butt seems more, relax & add a second finger… maybe a butt plug… or maybe a dildo… you can always add a third finger if you’re skilled and then finally you —ease— in a penis.
Stick it in to see how it feels, don’t automatically start pumping with quickness unless YOU KNOW you are ready for that. ( plus, if you pump too fast, you’ll regret it tomorrow when you feel the constant urge to poo haha)
If you’re going the finger route, use your joints as a ruler to gauge the steps. Getting into that butt, one joint at a time. Or you can get a fun butt toy that has various nubs to play with.
Everything depends when it comes to sex in general, but sometimes with butt sex you won’t even get past the finger or two finger steps on the butt-volution scale. Don’t get discouraged, butt stuff is a process.
You could always put a buttplug in to get your butt ready too! Some even have cute jewels, so you can let your partner know what’s on the menu tonight. haha But, I recommend a nice glass toy with my favorite lube, PJUR back door. It’s the only way I can get down with the anal and it has Jojoba oil, a natural muscle relaxant to calm those butt muscles down to take down the “thou shall not enter” sign. Also, it’s just great for exterior! 😉 booty massages. lol
These are some of my other posts for Anal Sex:
- Do your duty, Prep that Booty!
- High Maintenance Harlot Bich’s Anal Sex Kit
- I GET PRETTY ANAL ABOUT LUBE.
- Book Recommendation: Tickle My Tush
Please check those out. Relax! Anal sex is quite enjoyable if you do it right. If it hurts, stop because we are suppose to be having fun duhhhh.
((Love you A! <3 Snap me if you need anything else))