Valentine’s day is just around the corner and a mix of emotions might be coming over you. You either love the holiday or loathe it. Since everyone associates Valentine’s Day with going over the top with materialistic things, they usually end up with gifts that are literally going to add pounds to your bum or end up in the trash two days later. What people forget is that Valentine’s Day is about showing your feelings to your partner and expressing it in every way possible whether it’s physical or mentally.
Couples tend to forget that going back to the basics can be the most effective way to connect with each other. The simplest, most basic little notions might be the trick to spice things up instead of going over the top with sky writing and cutting down every flower within a ten mile radius.
Let’s face it – Valentine’s Day “kits” tend to be a little much, but it is all about how you use them. These cheesey yet most effective sensual tools will create a different experience and light that flame of passion.
Be prepared with everything beforehand, whether that means having the array of “tools” you might want to indulge in handy as well as knowing how to use said tools. Even though, this is one day out of the year that you want to make special, it’d be nice to grab fun stuff that you’ll be able to use again and again. So, grab that pad of paper and pencil and jot down a sexy shopping list with some of these fun bedroom props.
1. Body Boudoir Love In Luxury Indulge Powder Soft Silky Sheets Pheromone Mist
The main setting where you connect together is the bed. This Mist will refresh the sheets, attract your bodies to each other with the mild pheromone enhancer. What sets it apart from other fun pheromone products, is this mist will absorbs oils and your sexy time moisture while you're romping around in bed. It makes your sheets soft and feel silky against the skin.
2. Dust Up Kissable Body Shimmer
If you possibly don't know where you'll end up at the end of the night, you can dust up your body with this shimmer. Dust up makes your skin look like you just put a Instagram filter on yourself and you shimmer like a real life glamour photo shot. Not only does it make you look fancy, if your partner kisses you and then licks their lips you'll taste delectable! Put it on you key spots or put it everywhere on a daily basis! You'll smell like a marshmallow and they'll want to eat you up! Functional yet practical.
3. Earthly Body's 3-In-1 Suntouched Candle With Hemp
This "simple" candle is the multi-tasking love maker to your senses. It will visually light a dark room while setting the mood to be calm. The Candle will emit a soothing smell for an aromatic experience and once it's melted down, you can gently pour onto the skin to massage. There are various scents to indulge in that aren't intense and overbearing.
If you want the same thing but with a twist, check out Destiny Candles by Karen Michelle. Inside every candle, there is a piece of jewelry. Think of it like the adult's version of a toy at the bottom of a cereal box.
4. Lux Fetish's Bed Spreader
Restraints are always a fun way to do some power play in the bedroom. Trust peeks it's head and reveals your vulnerability to your partner and you open up to new possibilities. If you lay this out on the bed, they can see what is in store for them, it could really get the blood pumping. This Restraint set can be used with just attaching the cuffs to themselves. For those who don't have a headboard, it can also attach under the mattress which makes storing it for later easier!
5. Ouch!'s Eye Mask
Since we are going back to the basics, One of your favorite senses, Sight, is also the sense that doesn't allow you to experience your other senses to it's fullest. Very Sensually and with permission, blind fold your partner so you can explore your partner's body and they can experience your touch at it's maximum peak.
6. OhMiBod Club Vibe 2.OH Sound-Activated Vibrator
With your partner blindfolded, you can trigger their other senses. Make a Sensual Playlist to spark their desire and put this sound activated vibrator on her. This vibrator pulses to the beat of the music or you can control it with the wireless remote. This is also a simple way to introduce sex toys into the bedroom if you haven't already.
7. NS Novelties Sinful Whip "Flogger" $15.90
Many people assume floggers are supposed to be used with force. Instead, try taking the soft tassels and lightly dragging it over the skin. Build up with this foreplay and get the body ready for more physically touch. Increase with light slaps until you've reached your partners intensity levels of pleasure from being touched by this toy.
8. Blowpaste Edible Lubricant
Last, but not least is lubricant. An absolute necessity. Always keep it handy, like you're going to die without it! Using lube isn't just when you are dry like the Sahara desert! Some lubes such as Blowpaste adds a little taste for some yummy Oral sexytime-ness. Also, rub a little on the clit like a slip -n- slide and it can make clit stimulation more enjoyable. Never think of lube as a crutch but rather as a just add "lube" for a good time. I recommend, Cinnamon for guys to use on girls since Cinnamon is an aphrodisiac for men.
Let your bodies do the talking and put those 5 senses to good use!
I’m honestly one of the few people that you should NOT ask advice for this. So, full disclosure, I haven’t had a Valentine in over 5 years, so, I of all people don’t know what is “proper” to give. BUT! I am a girl and if I diiiiiid have a Valentine, these are my suggestions on what you should give her. 😛
Since, you didn’t really mention how long or what your status is with this girl, I’m going to give you a few options!
If you just met her and you haven’t gone past first base (and you actually like her), I think getting her something that fits her interests would be nice. As much as I love sex toys, if you genuinely like the girl and eventually want to get in her pants, start slow. Show that you care, show that you like her personality and that you think she’s beautiful on the inside and out. Then, sex and sex toys will follow eventually. So, if she’s a girly girl, think of something nice like a gift certificate to pamper herself! Mani pedi time! Get her cupcakes instead of chocolates! and if you go the “stuffed animal or balloon” route… shizzz be original! Get something different! …not the stuff that the Jo schmoe on the side of the freeway entrance is selling. I’ve only been given flowers four times in my life, but I think that even if it’s cliche, you can’t go wrong with flowers and I dig it. *shrug*
Now, keep in mind, I’m not the normal girl and I think the Bundle of Wuv from ThinkGeek is EPIC!! …and I’d hump a guy’s leg if he got me any of that or possibly their Unicorn Bouquet. *shrug* but that’s just me 😀 *hint hint maybe if she’s a nerd hint*
Now, if you already did the deed or messed around… do any of the above. obviously? haha BUT! I’m pretty sure you want my help for the bedroom. right? haha … 😛 I hope so because I CAN help you in that dept.
If you want to get romantical, you can go the sensual route and give your partner a great massage. You can get all cuddly, snuggly and more “connected”. There are plenty of massage oils out there, below are just my favorites. They all do something a tad different 🙂
Kama Sutra’s Oil of Love is always a plus but now that it comes in “Sugared Berry” that tastes like cotton candy, I’m all about it! This one is a bit more fun since if you lightly blow on the skin after some lickable play, it heats up!
JO Massage Glide Cranberry is great for the lazy folk! why? well, this massage glide is made of silicone so if you wanna massage and not have to grab for the lube after the massage you can get straight into play. This is just aromatic not tasty… but all the scents it comes in are pleasant.
Earthly Body’s FOR PLAY, 3-In-1 Candle, smells like lust in a can. This candle is great for ambiance and if you burn it down it turns into a oil which can be used as a massage oil. Don’t trip, potato chip, it won’t burn you. 😛 pro-tip: get a candle warmer to speed up the oil pouring process.
Or maybe you just want to spice it up with some edible lube fun… *lick lick*
Wicked’s Aqua Salted Caramel is for the basic bitches! lol jk jk it’s a great lube and it tastes like Starbuck’s caramel macchiatos… *love love* it’s one of the few edible lubes out there that I enjoyed that isn’t fruity. It’s not as thick but it does dry up a bit fast.
My ULTIMATE FAVORITE lube for the taste factor is Swiss Navy’s Strawberry Kiwi Lube. I found this lube great for oral sex leading into a pound town session afterwards. The yum factor is good for the fruity folk out there but it is a bit thick, which turns off a few people out there.
Doc Johnson’s whole line of Candiland Stuff just make me die of CUTENESS. They have their Candiland Sensuals Glide in Watermelon Rock Candy, it’s my favorite. Their fairly new lube is a nice addition for a Valentine’s day night and it’s cute so she won’t get weirded out. Tastes great.
Wet’s watermelon lube tastes like Jolly Ranchers! HOW CAN YOU SAY NO!?!? lol The consistency is super slick in comparison to most lubes too!
Jo’s h2O Red Licorice flavored lube legitimately tastes and smells like Red licorice. So, if you wanna get in a red vine sexy time mood.. get down with this.
If you wanna get into a little toy play, I suggest you swoop something that isn’t too “out there”. Unless you’ve already talked about what you’re into, then you probably already know what route to go with. I always think that when you’re starting to date someone you’re still exploring each others bodies, so getting into toys doesn’t need to happen just yet. So, by getting something little, it won’t be as distracting.
I always think a little bullet, finger vibe or cock ring is nice. There are plenty of toys, that won’t break the bank and is a nice way to ease into a dating thing. Since, you’re probably not even sure if this is gonna last since it’s so new.
Screaming O has a few simple vibing buddies out there, that you can snag from most adult shops. There are decently priced disposable vibes like the Fingo Tips. This vibe just fits on the tip on the pad of your finger and you can just rub that on her clit. (Psst… you didn’t really mention if you’re a boy or girl haha). So, this will work for any partner combo. If you want to spend more money, grab the Hello Touch~! It’s really “Tron” looking and its great for internal G-spot massaging.
If you’re a bit adventurous, why not try a Cock Ring! Right now, my favorite is the, ColorPop Big O!
I just thought this one is a nice introduction for couples to bring toys in the mix. Works for both partners. The BigO Colorpop has 3 speeds of vibration for variety. It’s material is super stretchy, so it’s easy to flop on. Plus, Cock rings are super useful for both partners, if you haven’t tried one yet. For guys, it helps keep blood flow in the penis to sustain a harder erection and decreases premature ejaculation. All while, vibrating on the girl’s clit to help her cum harder and faster along with ya!
Or just be a nice fella, and grab her a nice bullet like the Power Bullet Breeze! It’s simple and strong!… and possibly when she wants her own solo sessions, she can get off!
These were just a few suggestions, you could always go big and do something else of course.
Or if you just want some quick fun time since you may have just swiped right only weeks prior to Valentine’s Day. You could always just get a nice tube of Blowpaste. It’s a lube/oral gel to make playtime fun. It even has small traces of baking soda in it, so if you had a marathon sex session and forget to brush your teeth, it’s not so bad. They have a bunch of pro’s including being gluten free, vegan friendly and they are subtle in taste! Right now, they are even having a Valentine’s Day sale- You can get all three of their flavors for $19.99!
I hope that helped with the “subtle” sex side… I’m also, a foodie, so I think you should throw some food in the mix …. brunch? lunch? dinner, picnic, I don’t know … drive-thru dollar menu.. haha wtv and you got this down!