Is sex better slow or fast, does it even matter? | Q&A

Question and Answer time!

Question: “For women, is sex better slow movement or fast movement better or does it even matter? Some women have said just do what makes you feel good.”

Let’s see, Sex is like a nice car drive. Each car is different just like a woman. Some women are like a sports car, depending on the road conditions, some like it fast. Some women are like classic lowrider cars, where a slow and steady cruise is perfect to enjoy the ride.  Road conditions also determine the drive, like the libido levels, attraction to the scenery and stamina to be able to go the distance.

 

Each person out there has different preferences, whether you’re a woman or a man.  Intercourse is just one of those topics that need to be discussed with your partner.  The discussion could be verbal or if you have a great connection, then you can gauge on one another’s body language. Verbal GPS instructions during sex are always nice, a “Yes, Yes, YES!” might just possibly mean your motion is going in the right direction.

I know I’m not giving you a direct answer, but with only a small percentage of women being able to orgasm vaginally from internal stimulation alone, I’m talking a measly 25-30%.  When a woman says “do what makes you feel good”, it could go both ways.  I’m not saying she’s just a human masturbation sleeve that you’re sticking it in.  It could mean, she is part of the glorious 25-30% that can orgasm and gets her kicks from intercourse alone.  If you get a good rhythmic motion going on consistently hitting the insides in just the right spot you could be hitting the G-spot,  U-spot or A spot, which could lead to a good orgasm.

Those women might be saying whatever speed you’re doing is connecting with their needs and what they want.  It could also mean that she likes it similar to a massage because orgasms and finishing the race isn’t her #1 priority and the act is more gratifying. I know every partner is different and maybe they are taking you for a test drive. You can ride it any way you want to be able to see if they match with your skills.

Just remember, you like your penis touched (right?) and imagine trying to achieve an orgasm where a person is just hovering their hand over your dick and expecting a magical “sex explosion” outcome.  Sexually intercourse for women sometimes is just like that.  Our Clit is RIGHT there, it’s only purpose in life is to have an orgasm and it goes unnoticed.  So, give her clit some love while having intercourse sex whether it’s vaginally or anally… Multi-task!

Road Conditions make a drive different.  One aspect could be her cycle, the “moon sickness” time like right before her period her libido levels could be increased and she wants it fast.  Or another time she might want sex slow & steady to feel the fullness and more connected.  Or possibly, doing a gradual sex adventure session going 0 to 100mph over time might be on the agenda.  Those Sportscar women may like to go fast but sometimes taking in the moment and cruising top-down might be what she likes. You have to try it out and see what the road conditions are in front of you.

The horizontal hustle is a dance, it takes two to tango.  Some are rhythmically in sync and sometimes you might need to try new moves and positions that might make the motions go together.  This can make the motions of slow or fast come naturally where you don’t have to question your thrusts.

I did a little poll on Instagram for a day, and just as I expected. It’s all over the place. why? because we never know what we want or feels good until its happening with a certain person, time or place. haha

When you're having (intercourse) sex, do you like the movement fast? 76%-Yes 24%-Noor DO you like the movement slow? 68%-Yes 35%-Noor Does Speed matter to you? 72%-YES 28%-No

A simple, “oh, you like that?” might even help during sex. Also, switching it up from fast sessions to slow sessions, makes things interesting and not monotonous. Keep it Spicy …and Sorry for all the car metaphors but it came naturally while answering this for you. 🙂 haha   <3

 

What is a Wand? | the adult sex toy massager

What is this magical Sex Toy that everyone seems to ask for? want? or are curious about?  Massager Wands have various names but many know these Adult sex toys just as a Hitachi, which is an older brand, but that’s not the actual toy type.  With all the various toys in the world, it took me a while to muster up the nerve to give the wand a chance.  When in reality, it should have been one of the first toys out there, I should’ve bought.

But, I always felt like Wands were dinosaurs!  They are like the OG gangstas of vibrator world, with the Hitachi Magic Wand as their spokesperson!   Wands started it’s legacy awhile ago and it’s been around for quite some time.  Every time, I saw a wand I’d think of a “soccer mom” and feel like I need to use it Old_Hitachi_Magic_Wand_boxwhile wearing legwarmers, a leotard and a headband *think FLASHDANCE* after seeing their old box haha.  With all the new and improved toys out there, I never thought I should get something that plugged into a wall, let alone had its classic looks of the basic handle and large vibrating tip.

BUT! “there is a reason people are still fascinated with dinosaurs” aaaaand, when your bestie tells you that Wands are the best thing since sliced bread AND she happens to work at an adult shop… you can’t really ignore her opinion. lol

Body massage!Wand massagers are a great necessity.

Wands are great for a regular ol’ body massage and to relax one’s muscles.  This type of vibrator is a great “bedroom tool” to relax a person and a perfect pre-game build-up to explore a person’s erogenous zones. Whether it’s your back, limbs and leading to more traditional sexy-time areas. A Wand body massager’s perfect purpose is to literally vibrate a clit off! They are like the terminator of sex toys.  Wands have one mission and that is to vibrate and hit the spot for a strategic forced orgasm…almost within minutes. When you find the perfect wand, you will use it and “You’ll be back” for more.

I am the most Wand-erful Massager of the Adult Sex Toy World!Wands come in all shapes and sizes, with a basic look to it all.

  • The head that is the primary vibration source.
  • A neck that sometimes in some styles of wands are adjustable and bend to be able to give more pressure.
  • Then, there is the base which is the shaft to be able to hold and is the handle to direct where you would like to point that vibration in the right direction.

They can be small in size to fit in the palm of your hand and then some as large as your forearm.  They all deliver various types of vibrations but it’s always good to have at least one in your arsenal of sex toys.  Just remember that they have one big mission and that means high-intensity vibrations.  There are some wands that won’t completely vibe you into numbness if it’s too intense and some that buzz just right.  It’s not for the “beginner” per se, but it might be too strong for a newbie.

Also, Wands aren’t just a one trick pony that is focused for external clitoral stimulation. Many wands have attachments to be able to do so much more, they have attachments where you can stimulate internally and give g-spot stimulation or anal stimulation, etc etc.

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Come Through and Chill – Miguel feat. J. Cole, Salaam Remi

This is the perfect stand in front of the mirror while you’re feeling yourself.  Where you just want to body roll and be a sensual sensei. Either that or roll around in the sheets like you got mad sexy skills. 😉 This is one of those songs where you can feel the emotions and feel good.

Here is the music video, which pairs well with the song.  I’ve always been a big fan of R&B growing up in Southern California and it’s always a nice to become of fand and support a Socal Native.  Miguel has such an amazing voice and swag. Check this song out, it won’t disappoint.

“I can’t find Climax Anal Bursts. Can you share a link to find it?”

“I can’t find Climax Anal Bursts. I don’t want to buy it off of Amazon… It’s not a matter of life or death, but i’m running low… Can you share a link to find it?” -H

Haha I get what you’re putting out there. I usually like to stock up on something when I get 1/4th of the bottle left.  Climax Bursts Anal Lube is the jam and Topco has been making this thing for like for-ev-er.

I always say, if it works and you like it, Keep with it.  I’ve recommended this to “R” 5 years ago and he’s kept with it.  In case you’ve never heard of it, Climax Bursts Anal lubricant is a water-based lubricant and is compatible with most anal toys.  It stays slick and wet longer. It even has these crazy little “bursts” and dots that you can visibly see that actually are vitamin E, so it keeps the anal cavity walls nice and lubricated.

I searched around and it seems to be a bit hit or miss. Since, you don’t want to buy off Amazon (privacy reasons– he shares the Amazon account with family members & By the way, Make sure you aren’t signed in when you are searching for these items because it’ll show up everywhere. “HEY YOU SEARCHED FOR BUTT LUBE you should try this!!”… get what I mean? lol)

I recommend Adam & Eve. They are Norton approved and have a 4.7 on Google Customer Ratings. Along with lubricant they have a little bit of everything adult oriented so you can go hog wild on there.

Climax Bursts Anal Lubricant – 11 oz, Adam & Eve has it for only $11.95.

They are backordered at the moment and possibly why you haven’t seen them in stores.  But, since it’s not a matter of life or death, if you can wait 10 days… It shows it will be in stock then. So, you might even want to stock up while you can.

Hope that was helpful to you & my followers and it was great hearing from you, H.

 

Coochy Rash Free Shave Cream

Coochy Cream recently got a makeover!  This shaving cream has been a big favorite of mine to recommend for years but just recently Classic Erotica updated their packaging, website and social media to connect with you.

Coochy cream is a shave cream that I’ve found to be extremely helpful to those who are sensitive and prone to irritation.  This shaving cream is formulated to condition and moisturize at the same time to make shaving easy and the razor to glide perfectly over the skin for a closer shave. This dramatically reduces cuts, nicks, scrapes and razor burn. It doesn’t foam so you can see what you’re doing and know what spots you want to get smooth.  Especially if you’re trying to do some picasso masterpiece with your pubes.  haha Paired with a great razor, Coochy Cream will end up being your new best friend.

  • Gentle enough for all areas of the body.
  • Designed for both men & women.
  • Dermatologist tested.
  • Doubles as a gentle, moisturizing hair conditioner.
  • No-Gluten, No-Parabens

 

Coochy cream’s old bottles used to drive me a bit batty. In ALL the sizes.  The travel size had a push cap and the product would barely come out and if you tried to take the top you couldn’t squeeze it out since the bottle was so stiff.  So, you’d be in the shower doing the ol’ Jack off motion to the bottle in hopes that it’ll come out. The larger sizes had pumps but they were a bit much, 1 out of 4 wouldn’t work so I’d have to keep an old one handy just in case.  The clear top never stayed on and cracked since I always had a tendency to drop them. If it wasn’t for the great product inside, I’d throw this bottle across the room.

So, you can imagine how excited I was when they said eventually they were going to switch over to their new packaging.  The cap can be easily popped off, squeezed and you can get straight to shaving. But, that is only for their 3.4 oz, 7.2 oz and 12.5 oz. Which you’ll probably encounter more if you are visiting boutiques.  It comes in various scents such as Au Natural (fragrance free), Be Original (vanilla,  orange blossoms & gardenias), Frosted Cake (vanilla, butter cream & lilacs), Floral Haze (rose, jasmine & delicate fruit blossoms),  Island Paradise (acai berries & sweet mangosteen), Sweet Nectar (pear,  wild berries & apple blossoms), and Green Tease (green tea, bergamot & a twist of lime.

 

 

I favor the more fun scents like Frosted cake, Island Paradise and Sweet Nectar.  But to each their own.  I know one of my past customers loved the original since her boyfriend used it as well.

Each of them are lightly scented and isn’t too overwhelming. Also, it doesn’t leave you smelling like that scent very pungently since it all washes off anyways. Which is sad because I want my junk to smell like a Frosted Birthday Cake Party in my pants. haha Oh well! 😛  They even made life more pleasant with larger bottled size as well, that is a 32 oz bottle with a pump.  But, the only downer is it only comes in their Be original scent. whomp whomp.

All in all… what I came here to say is they are now in full effect!  You can check out their new website RashFreeShave.com, Give them a like & follow on Facebook! , or double tap some posts and add their Instagram.


Visit Goodvibrations.com,

they have the 3.4 o & 7.2 oz sizes in various scents, so you can see if Coochy cream might be your thing. 🙂  It ranges from $9-16 but it’s well worth it in my opinion.  I’ve tried other shaving creams but I always end up going back to good ol’ Coochy cream.

<3

 

National Orgasm Day July 31st

National days are kind of my thing.  It’s a pleasant day to remind you of something you aren’t aware of, something that you may love or something that needs more acknowledgement.

July 31st, is National Orgasm Day. A day to appreciate something so simple yet so important.  Everyone’s life is so complicated and busy that something as treating yourself to a good orgasm gets put on the back burner.  What better way to increase your quality of life both mentally and physically by achieving an orgasm or two.

When you look at the bigger picture of the benefits of having an orgasm, you might want to set some time aside today and get to work.

  • Boost your circulation. <3
  • Improve digestion.
  • Helps protect against osteoporosis, cancer and heart disease.
  • Induces cortisol which is a natural anti-inflammatory hormone which reduces the skin inflammation and promotes healthy skin and makes you look young and carefree!
  • Builds brain function, your immune system (by fighting cells – kick that cold and flu in the butt) and repairs tissues.
  • Nip Depression in the bud.
  • Your levels of Oxycontin increase which is the bonding and “love hormone” which can increase connections and drive your passion levels.

Love yourself, get those orgasms and if you have a partner give them an orgasm too! <3

I don’t feel comfortable being topless yet.

“You helped me find lingerie 2 years ago and found me some sexy lingerie that worked with my body.  I got My boobs done and now I have more options, the thing is My scarring around my nipples are still showing a lot. Is there a bra top that you’d recommend?  I don’t feel comfortable being topless yet.”

Hello sweetheart!

First, Congrats on the boob job!  That’s awesome you decided to enhance your body on how you see fit.   I know you want a lingerie piece but have you thought of pasties? And if you want to be even more sexier, have you seen skin adornments or skin jewelry?

You’d be able to wear whatever you want, your nipples will still show, your new boobies can show, all while your scars are somewhat hidden.  Camouflaged, would be the best word to describe it.

My favorite brand to recommend is Bijoux Indiscrets.  A company who combines classy and sexy. Their skin jewelry is very similar to pasties, that adhesives to the skin but doesn’t cover the nipple completely.  These type of skin jewelry adorns and highlights the nipple without concealing one’s natural beauty.

Click here to see all of Bijoux Indescrets line of skin jewelry. 

Click here to see the Mimi Pasties from Good Vibrations.com $18

If that doesn’t appeal to you, you can always wear a body stocking or mesh materials that covers like a soft screen over your body that still shows off your curves without showing your scars in plain sight.

“Love Between the Covers”

Reading seems to be lost in this world of every growing youtube videos, inspirational instagram posts and other blurb like media.

Rarely do I mention to people that I like to read, because then the next question that everyone always asks is “oh yah!?!?! What are you reading right now?” Or “what genre do you like to read?”.   Then,  the inevitable awkward pause initiates, where I have to evaluate if I want to shock them, if they are cool and wouldn’t mind to hear what I have to say or the possibility of having the same genre preferences.

SMUT. Erotic Romance. With a side order of historical significance or fantasy. I like it, love it, gotta have it.

HAHA. You’d be surprised how many people read romance novels or anything of the erotic variety. I just watched a documentary that I came across that is available on Netflix called, “Love Between the Sheets”.   It was awesome!  

At one point in the documentary, they mentioned how easily accessible this genre of books are available now.  I can’t go into my nearest bookstore chain and find the first book of a series… EVER.  So, I’ve converted to the e-reader world.  I have the first and every book there after at my fingertips.  The moment I finish one book, I can be on to the next one in a heartbeat.  Being able to read it in a moments notice or be able to take it with me anywhere AND without having the cheesy book covers either!   Being at an airport or public place where everyone is completely nosey and want to know what you’re reading and take a quick peek at the cover.

I particularly don’t care but there are many out there who do.  Being able to read a book completely mobile and NOW knowing that there is a big following as well is such a great feeling.  There are so many women out there that love reading this genre and we don’t even know it. Kind of Iike a secret society.  Soooooo many walks of life. It’s refreshing.  With all these inspiring writers allowing us readers to read their work is such an great opportunity and privilege.

If you have some time and like documentaries, check out this glimpse into the world of the women who create and consume romance novels.

My GF asked me to get her a dildo. I keep striking out. What do I get?

“My girlfriend asked me to get her a dildo. I keep striking out. What do I get?”

My advice is to buy one together.  Communication is always key.  It’s super hard to make decisions sometimes… I’m a prime example of indecisive girl.  So I KNOW!

You probably just want to go in the store, buy it and be done with the Dildo mission.  But, next time why don’t you guys pre-party and go to a sex shop together.  You might not even buy anything at the time but you guys can window shop and look at various shapes, sizes, colors, vibrating or non-vibrating dildos.  See what’s out there and do the lovely process of elimination.  I say go into a shop since shopping online gets a bit hectic with having so many options.

While, you’re at it… Whisper sweet nastiness in her ear of how you can’t wait to see her use it while you’re shopping. If she’s freaky like that.   Or be a concerning partner, and ask her what she thinks would feel good or is body-safe.

Or if all else fails. Grab a Clone-a-Willy kit! It’s a kit to mold your penis and bam! Dildo á la you! They also have the option for a vibrating version of you! The Kits comes in regular flesh tones and vibrant glow-in-dark colors too.  This will not only get giggles out of her but it shows that you put effort into getting her a dildo.  A LOT of effort since you got to take some time out of your day and stick your dick in a tube with some gunk.  Haha

I know you wanted me to just say THIS IS THE —ONE— MAGICAL DILDO that all FEMALES WANT! But sorry not sorry, there are too many dildos in the world… just like humans. Too many opinions. Too many choices.

Hit me back up if you got any more info I can work with to help you with the process of elimination.

Earth Day: Gaia Eco Biodegradable Vibrator by Blush Novelties

Tomorrow is Earth Day. We always try and find ways to reduce our footprint with everyday activities, but what about our nighttime activities?  So, I’d like to introduce to some of you a great way to reduce your footprint on this lovely planet we call home.  Instead of adding to the landfills, that probably have massive amounts of dildos and vibes in the mix. Check out…

The first biodegradable and recyclable vibrator.  The Gaia Eco brought to you by Blush Novelties.

This slimline style sex toy is a vibrator that is made from Biofeel, a starch based bioplastic aka PLA.  Made from renewable resources such as corn starch, cassava(Tapioca) roots, or sugarcane depending on where it’s made, this allows it to be biodegradable.  Having a toy that is made from renewable resources puts your mind at ease and Wall-E thanks you.


Now to the good part, Gaia Eco is a nice 7” long slimline vibe with an insertable length of 5.75” and 1” width.  It has a turn style base to twist on the multi speed vibrations perfect from internal or external stimulation. For the vibration, it only takes 2 AA batteries and comes in 3 soft colors to choose from: a pretty Pink, a neutral pistachio Green, and a Martha Stewart Sky Blue.

If you’re looking for a new basic vibrator that Captain Planet would approve of, this is it, the Gaia Eco.

Happy Earth Day, and after planting a tree, creating a compost pile and other earth DAY activities, think about getting this biodegradable sex toy.  Your nighttime activities doesn’t have to kill the earth at the same time. 😛

 

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